Even in a life we love, we have times when we feel a little spent, totally overwhelmed, dissatisfied, or just stuck.

And in these very human moments of discomfort, our emotional intelligence stands ready to partner with our intellect; it’s our greatest asset in uncertainty and the source of our resilience.

We could pause, pay attention, remember no feeling is permanent, and make the next right choice that reflects what we value.

But rather than allowing those hard feelings to move through us, our minds fill with the messages received from every direction; a life without obstacles and heartache is just around the corner if we try hard enough. If anything feels “off”, we must be doing it wrong.

We’re problem-solvers. So with our tender hearts and flooded minds, we seek an external fix and keep our focus on an ideal and elusive stress-free version of ourselves. We’re smart and capable but this rarely works.  Why?

Because the feelings we’re trying to manage our way out of aren’t accessed through our minds, they originate in our bodies. And they hold the wisdom we’re searching for.  

We have to feel it to heal it.

We can’t actually avoid complex emotion – it’s what makes us human – and the first step to increasing our emotional intelligence is building greater awareness of our feelings and patterns. Which means we have to get comfortable being uncomfortable.

Fortunately, there are proven practices that consistently shift you out of a focus on “fixing” and into a deep self-trust that transforms the way you experience your emotional life.

• emotional intelligence education/coaching
• restorative and therapeutic yoga
• gentle breathwork
• simple guided meditation
• writing to heal/personal narrative work

Rest, breath, presence, and reflection are powerful tools that we carry with us at all times – we just need to pause and apply them. And research proves that supportive habits are more durable in community…

let’s practice together.

XO tiff